But the next day, he seemed kind of weird and distant. “It sounds like he's probably unsure of his feelings, or the feelings he experienced the night before may be something so new to him that it may be making him feel a little scared,” says Suzanne Oshima, a matchmaker and dating coach at Single in Stilettos.Whether he’s feeling shaky about his emotions or your awesomeness intimidates him, one thing is certain—you won’t know for sure until you talk to him (and over text! In person, gently ask him what’s up with his behavior: “Hey, Mark, you’ve been acting a little distant lately. ” He may open up and have an amazing heart-to-heart with you. Believe it or not, they also fear rejection and abandonment. Men play out unconscious and conscious dating games which create a maddening push-pull with your heart.
Their behavior can be confusing, frustrating and maddening.
By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities.
And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.
I am not saying get him to pursue you by acting unavailable, I’m saying actually be unavailable.