I grew up in a household where violence was never an issue.
We never discussed it beyond the general basics most children learn, no one is allowed to physically harm you, make sure you tell us if you are being bullied, and never bully or physically hurt anyone else.
I wanted to support him and be there for him in any way he needed me.
I happily took on the task of making him feel loved and supported no matter what, it was me who was going to show him unconditional love.
“Towards the end (of their relationship), she had a blank stare,” her father, Rick, says. “She was like an empty vessel.” Throughout their yearlong relationship, David never hit Jamie. Instead, he convinced her those close to her were out to keep them apart, that she didn’t need to care for her appearance to keep him appeased. Jamie’s parents are now able to recognize the rapid and unhealthy intensity with which the pair’s relationship began.
The summer before she left for school, Jamie and David were together nearly every day, with the boy showing little interest in getting to know her tight-knit family.
I was the girl who would say with pride that I would never let anyone, especially a boyfriend, hit me. He opened up to me immediately sharing the struggles with his family life growing up. He told me how his father was abusive to his mother and he hated him for it.
I knew that it existed in the world and I knew it was bad if it happened, but I had no idea it was called Domestic Violence, and I definitely had no idea how deeply dangerous, manipulative, gradual and lonely being abused was, until I met Phil. With the amazing upbringing I had experienced it was difficult for me to imagine living in a violent environment.
Verbal fights would last for hours when she didn’t act according to his wishes, and she started to feel beneath him and unworthy of his love and affection.“A lot of the time people think that we’re young, and so it [the domestic violence] can’t be that bad,” she said.However, the shocking truth is that 23 percent of women who experience some form of partner violence in their lifetime report that the violence first occurred when they were between 11 and 17 years of age, according to the 2011 Center for Disease Control nationwide survey.Abuse in relationships was not a topic of conversation because it did not need to be.I had a large close-knit group of girlfriends, I am close to my parents, brother, sister, aunts, uncles, and cousins.But 32-year-old Segovia hasn’t always been in such a loving relationship.She was only 13 when she met the man who would terrorize her for the next four years, and become the father of her first child. He was very good looking and many girls wanted to be his girlfriend.He never had many friends who were guys and he wasn't into sports.Our relationship started as a dream, we were young and thought I was in love. Yes we were obsessed with each other, I knew that drove my parents crazy, I wanted to be with him 24/7, and he with me.Slowly little things were said that I initially thought came from a caring place, “wow you look like you have gained weight”, “you really think that guy was hitting on you?