But it seems as though, any which way you go about it, you CANNOT. You ignore that little voice telling you something’s fishy AF when he leaves you hanging mid-convo on a Saturday night.3.You may mistake his constant flirting and sweet compliments for him being genuine.But in hindsight, he’s never really made an effort to get to know you at all.4.You downplay the fact he never takes you out on real dates.He’ll buy you drinks at the bar, and he’ll always hit you up to “hang out,” but not much more than that.5.You have a soft spot for him, and you tend to put cover-up over every red flag.6. Conversely, everything seems to be moving too fast. None of these examples are asking too much from a boyfriend. Today, many women don’t want a man picking up every tab, but he should at least reach for it once in a while. It’s unrealistic to expect a ring after just a few months of dating, but if you’ve been together for years, and he’s reluctant to define your relationship or hasn’t said “I love you,” you have to wonder why.
The way a person treats servers and baristas can tell you a whole lot about who they are. Any guy who shuts down or blows up during a discussion about a serious topic – like your future together, religion or politics – is not worth your time.When you’re telling a story, does he immediately share a similar anecdote from his own life afterward, without acknowledging anything about what you just said?Chances are decent that he wasn’t even listening, he was just waiting for you to shut up so he could share more charming details of his sparkling personality.Another “jerk” warning sign: a boyfriend who yells but never listens.You haven’t met his family yet, and there are no plans to. A Jerk's Actions Don't Match His Words A good guy will always follow through on what he tells you he's going to do.When he can't, he'll let you know and won't leave you trying to figure out what happened.The only reason he answers your questions is because he loves talking about himself. Look, things come up, but if he can’t step up and take the blame when he does something wrong, there’s a problem. A d*ck will stare at you with wide eyes and wonder why you aren’t agreeing with him on all things.He doesn’t care about your answers to those same questions because he’s a self-absorbed fool who’s absolutely not worth your time. Screw the rules that say he needs to make the first move or he needs to call you the day after sex. People who challenge him remind him of his shortcomings, and d*cks can’t handle that. There’s a fine line between laughing at satirical jokes that are creative and well-executed and laughing at lazy, ignorant jokes that are made at the expense of minorities or women. Never ever trust a dude who doesn’t instantly fall in love with your fur baby.The dating world can be an exhausting, draining downer, so when you start dating a guy who seems charming and wonderful, it’s easy to dismiss any bad behavior in an effort to make things work. Eventually, his true colors will blend together and sh*t all over your life. Here are the warning signs he’s actually a total d*ck: He doesn’t ask you any questions. If he can’t handle that, then he’s got a lot of growing up to do. He didn’t call you yesterday because his boss was being a d*ck and made him stay late. Maybe he’ll state an opinion on something over drinks and you let him know that you respectfully disagree and proceed to tell him why.He might be extremely engaged when you ask him questions, but if he’s not putting in an effort to get to know you, he’s a d*ck. He canceled your date last-minute because his idiot friend came over and made him re-watch the Go T season finale. Decent men will listen, note your interesting viewpoint and tell you that they agree or disagree with your side.