I use this knowledge even in my personal relationships and get to understand them better. 6/20/2013 This book is an unbelievable book and I feel stupid for taking this long to buy it; I really could have used this book 11 years ago.Just getting through the first two chapters thus far has changed my entire perspective about dating.with over 15-million copies sold worldwide and translated into over 90 languages. Let’s set our imaginary date at a nice restaurant that the guy has chosen for the first official date.That book was followed by fourteen others, including Mars and Venus on a Date, and Mars and Venus Starting Over. By nice I don’t mean the town’s very best restaurant, just a comfortable place where he has probably gone and had a good meal before.) is a book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray, after he had earned degrees in meditation and taken a correspondence course in psychology.The book states that most common relationship problems between men and women are a result of fundamental psychological differences between the sexes, which the author exemplifies by means of its eponymous metaphor: that men and women are from distinct planets—men from Mars and women from Venus—and that each sex is acclimated to its own planet's society and customs, but not to those of the other.One example is men's complaint that if they offer solutions to problems that women bring up in conversation, the women are not necessarily interested in solving those problems, but mainly want to talk about them.The book asserts each sex can be understood in terms of distinct ways they respond to stress and stressful situations.
The book and its central metaphor have become a part of popular culture and the foundation for the author's subsequent books, recordings, seminars, theme vacations, one-man Broadway show, TV sitcom, workout videos, a podcast, men's and ladies' apparel lines, fragrances, travel guides and his-and-hers salad dressings.Now if on the other hand, a woman says, “Wow this place is a real find!I love the way they do their chicken….” In a man’s mind, he’s scored major points.As a romantic idealist, a "This is how do it" player (to quote one of my Army roommates) is just about the lowest of the low.The idea that the players were right was unacceptable.However on Mars, men tie their egos to the choices they make.This is never truer than in the case of a restaurant that they have chosen.In a US Army now more memory than real, an AIT instructor used "learning curve" on the first day of class at Fort Huachuca to tell us we would not all learn at the same rate, but just the same, we would all learn.I'm technophobic; however, the weblog phenomenon impresses me as a revolution in communication. There reaches a point where a pattern emerges and instead of placing blame outside of myself, I need to look at what I'm doing. According to Gray, there are 5 distinct stages of dating (see below).Gray writes how men and women each monitor the amount of give and take in relationships.If the balance shifts, one person feeling they have given more than they have received, resentment can develop.