Like any life process, divorce has a beginning and an end.
The end of the divorce process generally involves learning from the past, taking a forward-looking, present-centered stance, adapting to one's changed circumstances, and doing what one can to reinvent and reconstitute one's life.
Many experts believe this is because a majority of divorcees leap into hasty ill-conceived second marriages out of loneliness rather than carefully planning them for success.
It is wise to do one's homework before getting involved again to maximize one's chances of success.
Sometimes couples stay together solely because the husband can not stand the idea of becoming separated-divorced from his children.When your Mom starts dating other guys or your Dad starts dating other women, it’s hard to get past the initial “ick” factor” let alone learn to cope with the whole dating thing.That’s why so many kids try to keep their parents from dating at all.The one great thing that came out of this marriage, the kids, and now they are for all practical purposes, gone.When a couple divorce, it is because the relationship of the couple has essentially died.If, for instance, a first spouse was attractive because of his passionate and volatile attitude, but he later turned out to be abusive, it would likely be a mistake to get involved with a similarly passionate and volatile man in the future.If a first wife, chosen in part because of her careful attention to appearance, turned out to be an out of control shopper in part to support her attention to appearance, it would seem to be a mistake to get involved with similarly 'high maintenance' women in the future.Dating abuse isn't always as obvious as bruises and beatings.In fact, if you don't know any better, some of the most common forms of relationship abuse might seem like the way that boyfriends and girlfriends are supposed to act.Relationships can't survive unless you trust each other, and if your partner abuses that trust by lying to you, it's a relationship that isn't worth keeping. Lying regularly, or lying about important stuff, is absolutely not.Don't stand for this form of relationship abuse.