If you fall for someone who is a lot younger, you may get hurt because they can lack maturity that comes only from life experience.Twenty-somethings are often still trying to figure out where they fit in, and are still forming their goals.In your 20s, you were probably dreaming up what would be the pinnacle of your career life, because, why not?CEO of a successful start-up, with your young-adult novel trilogy being turned into movies by your 35th birthday? It's great to, well, lean in—but many thirty-something women will admit that time seems to rapidly accelerate when in your 30s.When the show debuted in 1998, I was 17, and it ran for six seasons until I was 23. ) woman in her 30s, it hits a little closer to home.
You dont want to be led on or trapped into something you didnt want in the first place.Single in the Mid-Thirties Things To Consider by Heather Jaillett It doesnt matter how you got to be single in your mid-thirties.What does matter, however, is that you have certain priorities in order so that you can protect yourself and those you date from getting hurt. I have created a life so full of fun and friends and work and kids and personal fulfillment that finding time for the average guy was uh, well, not so reasonable—thus the ensuing “search” for Joe Squared commenced. Photo overshares to new acquaintances, by the way, come off as a marketing ploy. I did, however, learn a lot about myself and my priorities, about the dating process, about other people and that I have an entire closet full of clothes but nothing to wear. Relationships are about bringing out the best in each other, not the worst, and not the person someone else wants you to be. Ask don’t tell, listen more than you talk, and stop sharing your entire life story in the first hour. People earn the privilege of hearing your personal information and story by earning your trust; save it for the right people. Your actions speak louder than your words, and uh, your selfies.While a boy toy or trophy can be fun in the short-term, if you are looking for a serious relationship you may want to look elsewhere.There are a lot of things to consider when dating either above or below your age bracket.The playing field is narrower; if you want kids, the biological clock is ticking; and as you're older, you’re naturally carrying around a lot more baggage.The number of single friends is dwindling, so there is also more pressure to be coupled up.So while you should keep those sky-high goals close to your heart, you also have to hold yourself accountable for not missing out on something else you really want—like marriage and kids."You have to decide how much time you can give to each of your priorities, and how much of you want to give to each priority," says Carpenter.