“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.
I’ve written blogs in the past about both bad and good behavior that men and women exhibit while going through a divorce. Part of coping with divorce is sometimes telling ourselves things that will soothe our pain and make us feel better about our situation, our decisions and our actions. For as many people who are telling you it was his/her fault, there are that many people telling him or her it was yours. He or she has to say that because you are paying him or her. Even if I could find a way, I’d never be interested in checking out my ex’s profile on dating sites or on facebook. Neuman recalls, "This 13-year-old kid once said to me, 'I feel, now that my parents are separated, that Idon't exist.'"While most children don't articulate their feelings so strongly -- in fact, most shrug or say "okay"if asked how they're coping with a parental split -- therapists who work with children of divorce agreethat divorce makes kids question who they are, where they came from, and where their lives are headed.That's not an argument for or against divorce, for or against dating.Do not create useless bad vibes by being rude to your ex since this will only make you feel worse and may even sow the seeds of anger in your kid’s heart.Following these tips will help you move on with your life. Don’t feel guilty if you enjoy your time without your kids. When I was married, I was really happy or When I was married, I was really miserable. You were happy at times, so don’t be afraid to remember those times, and you were miserable at times. It will reinforce the fact that you needed to be divorced. Some self-talk is positive and will truly help in coping with divorce, but sometimes divorced women and men lie to themselves, which is never good. Here are 20 lies divorced women and men tell themselves, and my response (of course.) 1.