Question: "I am in the process of getting a divorce.
Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?
Whether your experience with married sex was good or bad, you still experienced the freedom to be sexually intimate with your spouse and that is something that can be difficult to step away from after divorce.
Now I’ve read a lot of posts on the forum and I can see that so many of you are vehemently committed to living a chaste life and having chaste relationships. But society has stacked the odds against you and sexual intimacy is still one of the most common mistake people make after a divorce.
When you hear the word divorce, even if you aren't divorced yourself, I would bet that almost instantly you conjure up images of pain and tears, of yelling and courtrooms, of kids with backpacks, of lawyers and paperwork, of anger and sadness. Statistics tell us that divorce is the second highest stressor after the death of a spouse. The only difference, which can make it more unnerving to walk through, is that the spouse is still alive and well in the world, and you must continue at times to interact with him.
But a divorce is the death of a marriage and the death of your dream for it.
Does this mean that holding hands and a kiss is out of the question? I think we all understand that showing affection is a good part of dating.
But despite those differences, there are some similarities across the board.
Are there ways to reduce the risk of failure and improve marital happiness in remarriage?
How do you avoid unwelcome and unsettling surprises after it is too late to reconsider a relationship?
How will you beat the odds against a successful remarriage?
How will you go the distance, as others fall by the wayside?