We are expected to respond in the affirmative to the constant calls to action: show up and smile no matter what; think positive thoughts; kick fear to the curb; and be strong enough to push past our pain. As a matter of fact, the decision to choose positivity as our general life lens can be incredibly empowering when we’re in the mental space to receive it.But when we are not – – what do we do with our feelings?For example, if they ask, "Do you like who I'm dating? In these examples you're still being honest, but you're doing it in a way that isn't hurtful.Being honest doesn't mean offering your friends unwanted advice, either.
If you have a crush on someone, it may be a little bit more complicated than that.(as my daughters call it) occupy your mental space, leaving you with feelings of sadness, hurt, guilt, or just a general disconnect from any positive feelings about a thing, is your tendency to try to push through it, or to be with it?There is this unspoken dogma that pushes us toward constant optimism.However, if someone comes on too strongly, too quickly or just seems too into us, then we are rightfully suspicious.2) This might be a cliché, but actions do speak louder than words.Being honest with people is a crucial step in becoming friends. If your friends can count on you to be the one person in their life that will tell them the truth (perhaps even a truth that no one else will), they will appreciate you all the more.The trouble is when you're , you might say something that will hurt your friend's feelings.In the first situation, your friend is simply asking for your thoughts.Answer them gently, without trying to give them a dig or take them down a notch.Communicating your feelings for someone can be tricky at first, but there are many other ways of expressing yourself other than blurting out, "I love you." A blimp with giant hearts flying across the sky might be the flashy way to get your message across, but simpler ways of communication exist that might hold a bit more meaningful in expressing your heartfelt emotions. Let me rephrase that: Effective communication is hard.