After one month of dating

What DID surprise me is that, after the initial chemistry rush, Janie settled into a low-intensity pseudo-relationship that didn’t leave her at all satisfied. If he doesn’t follow through fast enough or often enough, make a mental note: “Hmm… I may have casually seen my wife for the first 4 weeks of our relationship, but I would always email the next day to say I had fun.

Which is why I wasn’t at all surprised when she met a man only two weeks into our coaching sessions. Application of this made-up “rule” is surprisingly simple. He calls, he texts, he emails – you just “mirror” his efforts and give him enthusiasm and warmth every time.

Each person would willingly admit that they are “in a relationship.” To my mother, dating references a period in her life when she was casually going on real-live dates with an array of men, many of whom she was far from serious about.

For the purposes of the here and now, we will go with definition number one of dating- the definition that holds enough weight to change your Facebook relationship status. Real life interactions don’t seem to occur anymore.

This is because eye contact is now a minor version of the plague- avoid it at all costs and use your phone as a shield.

Going on one bad date every six months was not helping my odds of finding something lasting.

When Saturday arrived, I had scheduled four dates for that day, each at coffee shops just two blocks away from one another.

There’s a huge difference between giving a guy six weeks to choose you over the other women he’s dating…

You win this one by assessing his efforts and concluding that you’re wasting your time.