Relationship coach and author Lisa Hayes told us, “You’ve got to get the green light. Instead of simply asking if it’s OK, you should instead ask a more thought-provoking and conversation-stimulating question.For example, ‘How While this situation might yield an unfavorable response based on the rules of guy code, Jennifer Kelman, LCSW and relationship expert, says that although it might be considered faux pas, it’s unnatural to think it can’t or won’t happen.I’m sorry, but there’s no way I can hide my unshakable, moral compass on this one – it’s weird and wrong and awful for a number of valid reasons.If you find yourself starting to fancy your mate’s ex, you need to ask yourself whether it’s simply lust cravings for human contact or something more.For me, the whole ‘follow your heart’ or ‘the heart wants what the heart wants’ cliches should be thrown out the window here.
“The more you can deal with and be upfront with all the web of emotions,” Luiz says, “the more your friendship has a chance of not only surviving but deepening.” Beginning the discussion with your friend might be scary, at first.It’s also important to remember the evolving power of social norms.Your friend may be OK with what’s happening at one point, but their feelings may change." I went for my best friend's first ex-girlfriend a day after they broke up.Chauntelle Tibbals, here is what you should and shouldn't do while dating the ex of a friend. Did they date for a week in eighth grade and break up via AIM?Have they been together for 10 years and just ended things in an emotionally draining way?More times than not, going after your buddy’s ex is off limits and fully violates any type of guy code by which you might abide.But every once in a while, the universe speaks to a person and lets him know that, although it seems wrong at first, there might be a bigger reason your friend dated this person in the first place – maybe it was to connect the two of you, instead.Lots of people have told me unequivocally that they would never date a friend's ex.They wholeheartedly believe that it's wrong, disrespectful, and if a friend did that to them, they'd never talk to that person again.Just because they did it in Friends, it doesn’t mean it’s OK in real life, guys.Where relationships are concerned, going out with one of your mates’ ex partners is, whichever way you look at it, wrong.