This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.In my early 20s, I too would have served pizza on paper plates, if indeed I had thought at all about offering hospitality.This is one of the potential pastoral challenges to ministering to single adults.Not only is Christian successful in matching Christians, we're also independently Christian owned.That means we share your Christian faith and values. "Without your site, I probably would have not met my husband of four years.We are often The Singles: one monolithic block of unmarried people.But there are as many stages and seasons to single adult life as there are for married adults.
From those who lived in the same city, to those on the opposite ends of the world, they've met right here at Christian Carolyn Mc Culley is the founder of Citygate Films and the director/producer of the Desiring God short film, The Story of Ian and Larissa.She is also author, with Nora Shank, of the book The Measure of Success: Uncovering the Biblical Perspective on Women, Work, and the Home.We were each the first person met from the site, and we hit it off right away.Through your site we were able to meet in person and since have shared many happy years together.I don’t have first-hand knowledge, but thanks to reality TV, I believe it appears to involve asking the woman’s dad if she is available to date, and possibly not kissing until the actual wedding.Outside the Duggar-verse, there is the less overt but just as prevalent “ideal spouse” dating. Did she want my sweatshirt because she was cold, or because she likes me?podcast and answered ten questions on singleness and dating.We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are “not yet married.” Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.But in a day when so much nominalism passes for authentic maturity, give us a few simple marks of spiritual growth that a man or woman should be looking for in a potential spouse.I think what you are looking for is seriousness about growth in the person’s faith.